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Is Your Networking a Series of Random Acts of Hope

Marcus Cauchi


In this guest blog, Marcus Cauchi, writes about how he has learned to network effectively. Marcus is the leader of the Reading NRG Group and you can see him in action there on the third Tuesday each month.


Is Your Networking a Series of Random Acts of Hope?


Do you have a plan of action when you go to a networking event?

Do you know what you want to achieve and who you want to meet?

Do you attend networks and do little or nothing to engage with other attendees or members between meetings?

Do you spend a fortune on breakfasts, lunches and dinners, G&Ts, coffees and beer but have little or no business to show for it?




Because you are probably behaving more like a butterfly than a bee. You flit from one unsatisfying social engagement to another without any purpose or direction, you don't engage, you may be trying to sell to a room of needy, desparate and skint people without ever listening or asking the right questions. And chances are you are doing structured 121's with the people who attended to explore if you could become regular referral partners.


Referral Partnerships

Do you have a handful of referral partners who you meet on a regular basis to exchange contacts, set up appointments for one another, support one another with intelligence, hold each other accountable or act as part of their business support network?


Probably not. Few people do. I know I didn't for the first few years and as a result I ran around like a headless chicken and my wife Suzanne became a networking widow. 30 networking events a month, credit cards up to the hilt paying for memberships, event fees, bar bills and lunches nad very little to show for it.


Then I got smarter.


Who to Partner With

Now I actively seek out people who I like and trust, or have been referred to me by trusted sources, and aim to establish a strong personal relationship first. I look for people who sell to the same audience or target market that I do but we don't compete directly. For my sales & sales management training and coaching business, complementary disciplines include banks, accountants, marketing consultancies, outsourced sales/sales management/lead generation companies, CRM vendors, recruiters who are local to me. If you are one of these or know someone who operates in the Reading/Thames Valley/South East of England area I'd love to hear from you/them as I've just  oved my business and I'm currently looking for another 2 referral partners to work with.


The Process

The process I go through involves gaining a mutual understanding of each other as humanbeings first. Then we establish a strong understanding of each other's business, our respective target markets and we teach each other how to identify, qualify and do each other's 30-second commercial to our mutual satisfaction, so we are making introductions and setting up introductions properly and without ambiguity or errors.


We meet regularly. Every 6-8 weeks. We identify what we are each looking for and then produce a long list of people in our contact base who might fit the bill. This list might be 20 or 30 people long. Then we go through the list and refine it until we have a shortlist of 10-15 who we each call from our own contact base. We make the introductions there and then and attenpt to book time in our contacts' diaries for our referral partner to meet.


We establish a clear up front agreement about the what our contact can expect form the meeting and give them permission at any point to end it or to say "no" and as partners we understand our job is to protect the relationship of the person referring us so we cna rest easy, knowing that we won't be suffering from referral remorse (when you make a referral and regret having made it).



We commit to keeping each other up dated as to progress on each of the referrals. We let the other person know how they went, what went right or wrong. And we keep refining our understanding over time so we get better at referring.


Once you have momentum and have built that trust and experience up, a referral partnership meeting can easily generate between 7-10 qualified, warm, personal introductions to decision makers in our respective target markets per meeting.


If you have 4-8 of these referral partnerships going live and you meet every 6-8 weeks you can easily have between 40-200 meetings booked into your diary each year. If you do the maths it can get as high as 693 introductions per year (yes I did say six hundred and ninety three) with 8 referral partners if you're meeting every 6 weeks with 10 meetings booked per engagement. That is more than enough for you NEVER to have to cold call again isn't it?


Take Action

So why wouldn't do this for your business? Masochism, apathy or sloth ar ethe only legitimate reasons for not doing it.


Make the decision to get your act together. If you'd like to learn how to do this effectively, you can contact me if you're in the South East, ideally with easy access to Reading where my office is based, or speak to the Referral Insititute for their methodology which is pretty robust too. 


Next Steps

I'd be delighted to explore becoming your referral partner if you sell to SMEs and corporates, preferably in the the technology, media and professional services sectors, if you're based in or near Reading, Basingstoke, Maidenhead, Camberley, Bracknell, Wokingham, Windsor or other towns nearby.


And if you happen to know anyone who is frustrated that their networking isn't working, they struggle to fill their sales pipeline or their pipeline is weak and inconsistent, they have to sell to survive or they have a sales team that is complaining they haven't got enough leads consistently, their marketing isn't delivering the prospects they need to hit their targets, do please pass on my details (07515 937221 or mcauchi@sandler.com). better still, call me and we can discuss the person you plan to refer me to, we can establish the groundrules by which I will operate to protect your relationships and I will educate you in my process by way of a thank you. Is that fair?


Happy selling!



Business Networking Blog > Posted by Dave Clarke at 18:00:23, 19 Nov 13
Tags: networking,effective networking,systematic networking,networking works,my networking isn't working,networking is a waste of time,
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Focus On The Process And Not The Outcome

Cover of The Antidote by Oliver BurkemanIn a blog post I read earlier by Eric Barker on 'Barking Up The Wrong Tree' I was interested in what Oliver Burkeman had to say about how to set goals that work. Guardian journalist Burkeman was interviewed by Barker following the publication of his book, The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking.


This is what he said about setting goals that work.


"For a long time there’s been an absolutely unquestioned dogma that having clear and ambitious goals is always a fantastic thing. I don’t think that that is absolutely wrong in all cases but there’s this huge shadow side to goal setting.


There’s a lot of evidence now that shows they can actually be demotivating. Goals can tempt people to cut ethical corners and to cheat when they are too rigidly focused on those goals.

The best thing to do is to set process goals rather than outcome goals. Stop telling yourself you’re going to write the great American novel, and tell yourself you’re going to do 500 words a day. Step back from focusing on the outcome and focus on process."


This approach certainly worked for me in gaining my Taekwondo Black Belt. I didn't start training 5 and a half years ago with a goal of getting my black belt. I started because my son wanted to do it and so I did too for a couple of reasons. One was to enjoy an activity with him and the other was that I would need to leave to pick him up just after I would get home from dropping him off! I just followed the training regime the instructors gave me. I now have my black belt 2nd Dan and am traing for my 3rd.


What are the lessons of this approach for networking?


Many people focus on what they are hoping to sell and end up actually putting people off. If you are networking to get help, support and business then it's safe to assume the people you meet want the same. The process that leads to that outcome is the building of trusted relationships and making friends in business. Focus on that process by getting to really know the people in your networks through one to one interactions and giving them help, support and introductions to other business contacts and opportunities. The wonderful thing is that as you do that for others then others do it for you.


Good Networking!

Dave Clarke

Dave Clarke


Business Networking Blog > Posted by Dave Clarke at 20:43:07, 18 Nov 13
Tags: How Networking Works,Goals,Business Networking
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The 6 Vital Things In Business

Six ThingsAs someone who runs business networking groups I like to find other good networks where I can participate as a member. It is important that the ethos of these groups is about connecting and building relationships first. One of my groups is The Oyster Club and I attend the Monthly Seed Pearl Breakfast which is excellent and hosted by Tanya Mann Rennick. At this months breakfast I met David White who is Chairman of Weboptimiser. We had a good chat and discovered a few things in common so I looked up his profile on the weboptimiser website.


The first paragraph really struck a cord with me. David wrote,


"I have learned that there are six vital things in business. Finding friends, finding out how you can help them, helping them, keep thinking about them, finding others like them and introducing them to each other."


I could have written that myself about a successful approach to business and networking. In fact I have written similar about building a business by referring others and making friends in business on this blog before.


As David has proven networking really is at the heart of business success.


Good Networking!

Dave Clarke

Dave Clarke


Business Networking Blog > Posted by Dave Clarke at 16:34:48, 10 Oct 13
Tags: Business Networking,Networking Groups,Networking Relationships,business friends
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Influence: How to Steal a March on Your Competitor

ChoiceIn How To Punch Above Your Weight In Business Bob Hayward shared the 7 principles he uses to win business with larger companies and organisations. Often against competition from larger consultancies like Accenture and the like. Bob expands on one of his principles here with this guest blog on the psychology of influence. 




Influence: How to Steal the March on Your Competitors by Bob Hayward


In his book, Blink!, Malcolm Gladwell refers to something that you do every day. It’s called “thin slicing”, and it’s that instantaneous decision you make about something else based on the flimsiest of evidence. You catch a glimpse, and you draw a conclusion. You get a whiff, and that reminds you of an entire meal.


But in every case, you make a judgement based on a small part of the whole. And that’s because you’ve learned what to expect. Daniel Kahneman* refers to this as fast thinking – deciding to do something automatically, without feeling the need to mull over it. It’s important that you recognize not only that decisions are made like this, but also to use it to win large contracts.


How can you persuade anyone to buy your products or services without them having to think much about it?


How can you influence them to choose you over someone else?


The answer is that it’s all in how you present your proposal. There are several steps that are necessary to do this. Get these right, and you’re practically assured of success. Get them wrong, and you might as well take the rest of the day off.


Consider four straight forward steps.


1. Liking

2. Social Proof

3. Contrast

4. Scarcity


1. The first thing you need to do is to make the most of the small talk. This is your chance to “break the ice” – “build rapport” and pleasantries can do just that because during the small talk you can demonstrate common ground or similar interests. Your primary goal is to get them to consider you as similar to them in some way, as like them. Robert Cialdini** refers to this as ‘Liking’. When people like you, then it’s entirely normal for them to trust you, and to consider buying from you.


2. The next step is ‘social proof’. This is where the bigger companies sometime have the advantage. The sheer weight of their reputation, (not to mention their burly consultants), and vast range of projects give them ‘authority’ on a grand scale. This is where your client list is wheeled out. In most cases, just by having worked with X,Y or Z, you look more like a viable option. This, too, increases trust. Give two or three verbal case study examples of people or companies, a before and after story. Make them as relevant as possible so they can sense someone else in their exact same shoes, with a very similar situation made a decision in your favour and benefitted well from it.


3. The next step is contrast. Here you compare the benefits of what you can do to your competitors. There will be aspect of your proposal which will be the same as that of your competitors and there will be aspects where you differ. Here is where you need to position yourself as an expert whose strengths more closely match the needs of your prospect and add significantly more value with much less risk. Remember the fear of loss is greater than the desire for gain so not only do you need to be the best option you also have to be the safest option.


4. Even if the consider you as ‘like them’ – even if three other clients had exactly the same problem as them and now thanks to you are living on cloud nine – even if there is a massive return on their investment and zero risk you may still need to provide another reason for your prospect to buy. And that is scarcity.


This widget is only available from you, or only available at this price in this form for today, some aspect has to be ‘scarce’. Find one key aspect to tip the scales in your favour right now. The qualifier is that they must decide quickly, otherwise you will be too busy later. Quite often, a little urgency is all it takes to get prospects to make a decision, provided that you’ve effectively implemented the other steps.


Then you can ask for the order.


If your prospects like you, recognise your authority, see the relevance of your client case studies, accept that you are better positioned to solve their problem than your competitors, and feel the need to use you as soon as possible, then you’ll win the business.


But, if you get any of these steps wrong, then you’ll disrupt their thin slicing and force them into slow thinking. They’ll have to concentrate on what you’ve said, and then discuss their options with other decision makers. The longer this process goes on, the less likely it will be that you’ll win the business.


Instead of stealing the march, you’ll be lucky to keep up.


* Kahneman, Daniel. Of 2 Minds: How Fast and Slow Thinking Shape Perception and Choice.

** Cialdini, Robert. Influence: The Power of Persuasion

Further reading:

Granger, Russell. The 7 Triggers to Yes!



Thanks again to Bob for sharing those insights and you can read more from him in his blog.


For more on influence see The Science of Persuasion And Business Networking which includes a short video on the Science of Persuasion.


Good Networking!

Dave Clarke

Dave Clarke


Business Networking Blog > Posted by Dave Clarke at 13:15:32, 25 Sep 13
Tags: Business Networking,Advocacy,Collaboration,Influence
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A 60 second presentation that works!

60 second presentation that works!


You go to networking events. 


You have just one minute to make an impression. 


Here is a formula I learnt from Bernie De Souza that really works.


The format is:


Introduce yourself  (just who you are)


Fact 1  (a generally accepted fact relating to what you do)


Fact 2  (another generally accepted fact relating to what you do - you are now getting audience buy in)


Statement of what you do and benefit.  (focus on the benefit)


2 options:


Option 1   (your call to action)


Option 2   (continue doing nothing)


Close  (include a tagline)


So, here is an example:


"Hi, I’m Martin Davies from NRG.


Most business owners of service organisations know that they get their best business through word of mouth referrals.  They go to networking events but just don’t get enough business referred to them.


At NRG over the years we have developed a system for getting business referrals which works.  We call it the NRG Advocacy System and through it you can develop a personal network of the right people who go out of their way to introduce you to your target market.  We call them your Advocates.


So, what is easier for you?


Download a free copy of The NRG Advocacy System which will take you through the steps of how to build your personal network of Advocates and through them succeed in growing your business consistently.


Or you can continue being frustrated in your networking activity.


My name is Martin Davies from NRG – we help people build advocates."




Good networking.


Martin Davies

NRG Business Networks

Business Networking Blog > Posted by Dave Clarke at 10:21:30, 14 Aug 13
Tags: Business Networking
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How To Punch Above Your Weight In Business

Punching above your weight in businessOne of the things that directors and partners of small or micro businesses often say to me is that they would like more business with larger companies and organisations. At the NRG Lunch in London on Tuesday Bob Hayward gave a talk on how he as a one man business regularly wins contracts against competition from Accenture and the like through networking and collaboration. In this guest blog Bob shares the 7 principles he uses.






How To Punch Above Your Weight In Business by Bob Hayward


Big companies have a track record for clinching the big deals.


They have a strong selling proposition, they are seen as the safe bet and a huge network from which they can draw a team of people that can deliver real value.


But, what about the little guy?


What if it’s just you?


How can you win the big contracts?


Here are the seven principles that you need to follow.


1. You must offer unique value.


You must think like your prospect: If you have 10 proposals in front of you, how will you decide which one to choose?


One of the key factors will be how they differ.


If nine of them are the same, which one are you likely to spend the most time evaluating?


The tenth one.


And the same thing is true here.


You have to make sure that there is clear, blue water between your proposal and the ones your competitors submit.


2. Develop relationships with your connections.


Since the advent of social media, the be-all and end-all has been to build vast networks with thousands of connections.


Connecting is an essential first step because it establishes a mutually beneficial relationship with a number of people.


However, you have to put in the time and effort to develop those connections, and to do that, you have to add value to them first.


An easy way to give value to those in your network is to refer business to them. And that means you have to get to know them first.


3. Form a team from your network of those you can trust for advice and cooperation.


John Donne said that “No man (or woman) is an island.”


That is more true now than it was in his day.


No one, not even you, is indestructible; and none of us can know everything.


A team of people who will tell you what you need to hear and who will collaborate with you is an invaluable asset. The big boys do this particularly well. Often the people they put on a job are not employees; rather they are associates – self-employed one-man-bands.


That means that sole proprietors like you can beat them at their own game.


4. Make a persuasive presentation.


This may sound obvious. On the other hand, how often have you experienced “death by PowerPoint”? And how often have you come across bland proposal documents?


It still happens, and all too often.


Ensure that you’re well-prepared.


You’ll only get one chance.


Invest in yourself. Enroll in the best persuasion and presentation training you can find. You will be rewarded many times over.


5. Connect with the decision-maker on a personal level.


The most important thing you can do is to make it easy for him or her to like you personally.


Doing so will make everything that you have to say easier to accept and will add credibility to you and your ideas.


6. Demonstrate your commitment.


Gamblers let their desire for gain override their fear of risk.


Business-men and women are just the opposite.


You can instill their confidence in you by removing any risk they feel.


When you pitch for a big contract, your prospect needs to know that you will give everything you have; not just everything you can.


7. Some people energize, some drain. You do either one or the other.


That means that if you’re not giving, then you’re taking.


Your energy and enthusiasm has to carry both you and them over the line; you won’t get the contract unless they feel that there is something different about you.


If you want to punch above your weight, then you must be able to deliver value in a different way to the big boys.


And you can do that by showing your prospects that you can give them what no one else can: a unique idea delivered through a team of top quality professionals who know the client better than anyone, who have more energy than the competition and who demonstrate a greater commitment to exceptional value with very low risk.



Thanks to Bob Hayward, himself a ‘one-man-band’,  for that sage advice. Bob has won several mult-million pound contracts from global blue chip companies. The seven key principles have been a consistent part of those success stories. He has promised to expand on some of his principles in future guest blogs. Until then ...


Good Networking!

Dave Clarke

Dave Clarke


Business Networking Blog > Posted by Dave Clarke at 15:00:22, 31 Jul 13
Tags: Collaboration,Advocacy,buisness networking
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The Science of Persuasion And Business Networking

Many of the posts in this blog are about how you go about building a business network and motivating the people in that network to help you achieve your goals. The NRG Advocacy Model* helps you to take a strategic and scientific approach to this. In 'Networking and The Psychology of Persuasion' I wrote about the lessons for networking from the leading text book on the science of persuasion by Robert Cialdini and Steve Martin.


This excellent short animated video about the ideas in the book help explain some more about the science behind this approach.


*For more on how you can use the NRG advocacy model to take your networking to another level read& How To Win More Business Through Networking.


Good Networking!

Dave Clarke

Dave Clarke


Business Networking Blog > Posted by Dave Clarke at 21:19:09, 01 Jul 13
Tags: Business Networking,Research,Word of Mouth,Advocacy,Influence,Science,Persuasion
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Take a different approach to networking

New ideaThis is a guest blog from Jeremy Marchant on taking a different approach to Business Networking. Jeremy is a long standing member of NRG and his approach is very much in line with the NRG Advocacy Model*. You can find out more about Jeremy at this link to his website, Emotional Intelligence at Work.





Take a different approach to networking, by Jeremy Marchant


Many people misunderstand the purpose of a networking event. It isn’t to get customers, or even leads. It certainly isn’t to ‘sell to the room’.


We believe the purpose of a networking event is to find out how you can help other people (and to then help them). Givers gain, as one networking organisation puts it.


Many business people do not attend networking events. This can be for a variety of reasons


They don’t need to. They have enough clients already.


They believe it doesn’t work.


They believe they can’t do it.


They believe they will be embarrassed.


In truth, many people who do go to networking events go to them with the wrong approach. We know of one businesswoman who joined a networking club and attended an event each month for a year. After that, she stopped. ‘How come?’, we asked. ‘Because I didn’t get any clients’. ‘How many one to ones did you have?’, we asked. ‘None’, she said.


Frankly, this is not at all surprising. Very few people will go to an event with the intention of giving business to someone they don’t know. This person needed to hold as many one to ones as time permitted. She needed other people in the group to know – and understand – what she did, so that they could identify her as a good person for their contacts to know when those contacts had specific problems she could help with.


She also needed the right people in the group to know. You go to the networking event to find the right people to have one to ones with. You hold the one to ones so these people can find out what you do.


But you also hold the one to ones so that you can find out how you can help them. Arguably that’s even more important. Most people will help someone who has helped them – and help willingly given is far more effective than help which is demanded. So one criterion for assessing who the right people are to hold one to ones with is the extent to which you can help them.


People who don’t need networking because they have enough clients need to be confident that this isn’t a short term ‘hand to mouth’ situation. The term ‘business development’ these days is being used to mean ‘sales’, yet, in truth, sales can only ever be a short term tactical activity – that’s its whole rationale. The development of a business can only be strategic. Strategic means of getting clients include active advocacy and referral relationships, we argue.


People who believe they can’t do it, or that networking doesn’t work (usually the same belief), probably need to improve their game – and maybe go to networking events which are empathetic to the ideas set out above.


People who believe they’ll be embarrassed are probably right – but in the immortal words of Susan Jeffers, ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’. They won’t be embarrassed the second or any later time.



*For more on how you can use the NRG advocacy model to take your networking to another level read How To Win More Business Through Networking.


Good Networking!

Dave Clarke

Dave Clarke


Business Networking Blog > Posted by Dave Clarke at 11:54:56, 20 May 13
Tags: Business Networking,Givers Gain,
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Resilience & Agility In Business

resilience and agilityI have been invited to speak this month at the Pitch Perfect Club on Resilience & Agility in Business. The event takes place in London on the 23rd May. It has got me thinking Resilience & Agility In Business and stories to illustrate that.


One of the major reasons for taking my first 'proper' job was the conference they had planned in Tenerife two weeks after starting. The other reason was the professional sales training programme they would put me through. The job was as a salesperson for the Loctite Corporation's new UK Consumer Division launched to capitalise on the success of their Superglue product. After the conference and a mix of classroom and on the job training I was handed my car, the tools of the job and a map of my sales territory.


I learned a lot about life in general and business in particular during my 5 years with Loctite where I finished up managing National Retail Accounts. The first thing I learned was resilience and how to pick yourself up time and time again after a less than positive sales call. I guess the picking yourself up was relearned as, after all, I'd successfully learned to walk many years ago! I learned that resilience came from developing a reason for why I was doing the job, how to enjoy it and from viewing any rejection as a rejection of me in my role and not as something personal.


The second thing I learned was the benefit of speed & agility. Part of the job entailed efficient journey planning and working to an agreed plan. I soon discovered that the flexibility to break away from that plan could bring unexpected rewards and bonuses. Part of my job involved selling to new and different outlets and on a number of occasions I found myself selling to one retailer who turned out to be part of a franchise or regional chain and an immediate diversion to a head office or other outlets would increase a sale exponentially.


I have subsequently incorporated strategies for developing resilience and agility in a number of start-up small businesses including one where the result was a successful referral to both the BBC and Turner Broadcasting from a division of Vodafone.


Lessons for Business Networking


When you build relationships with people in business through networking you are looking for those who will be your advocates*. You increase your attraction if people get a sense that you know where you are going, you make a real difference and you enjoy what you do. All of these are things also help build your resilience for the inevitable challenges you will face in business.


The speed with which you follow up and the agility you demonstrate in finding ways to support your network will also help others to advocate you when opportunities present themselves.


*For more on growing an advocate network take a look at the resources in How To Win More Business Through Networking.


Good Networking!

Dave Clarke

Dave Clarke


Business Networking Blog > Posted by at 16:35:44, 03 May 13
Tags: Advocacy,Business Networking,business,agility,resilience
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The Time It Takes To Win Business From Networking

ActionYou don't get fit by joining a gym. You get fit by working out a programme to get fit and then following that programme. That may involve joing a gym. It's the same with networking. You don't get business by joining a networking group. You develop business through proactively building you network in the right way with the right people.That may involve joining a networking group.


A frequent question from the guests I speak to at NRG Networking Events is, "How long does it take to get business from this?"


The answer is that if all you do is passively attend the events then it could be a long time. If, on the other hand, you are meeting the right people and you make a point of following up and building your Advocacy Network in the right way then you can start winning business straight away.*


As Woody Allen famously said, "80% of success is showing up". The rest is in the follow up.


*For more on building the right network take a look at the resources in How To Win More Business Through Networking.


Good Networking!

Dave Clarke

Dave Clarke


Business Networking Blog > Posted by Dave Clarke at 19:01:13, 03 Apr 13
Tags: Advocacy,Business Networking
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